“No matter how far you’ve traveled down the wrong path,
it’s never too late to turn around.”
Memes don’t usually give me pause for thought, but that particular one did. A few years back, I began to question the path I was taking in my life. I was happy with most of it – I had a great marriage, happy, healthy kids, a nice house, a decent job. But there was this constant little voice nagging in the back of my head – what about Hope? what about your stories?
What about them??
Shortly after the birth of my first, I gave up on my creative writing dreams. I had had minor success as a teen and in my twenties with publishing my short stories and my poems, but with all the responsibilities of parenthood and a growing family, etc, I figured that writing – particularly all the time spent imagining, daydreaming – was something best left for the carefree (eg: not new parents) and best left out of responsible “adulting.”
Years went by, two more kids arrived and as the responsibilities piled on, my yearning for writing only increased in response. For so long, it had been my outlet, often my only outlet, for dealing with depression – something that has plagued me since adolescence. The writing wasn’t just a hobby, it was my therapy, my coping mechanism. It was a large part of who I was and how I had handled my depressive thoughts in the past, and without it, I began to realize that not only was I risking falling into it again but I was also denying myself that important outlet of my own self-expression. I wasn’t allowing myself to be, well, me.
It was just that important and I realized then that I absolutely needed it back in my life.
So, I stopped. I stopped my journey down that long, arduous (at times, dry and dusty) road of responsible “adulting” and I turned around. I bought a writing desk, a laptop. I carved time in my day (sometimes even just 10 – 15 minutes!) and I gave myself permission to write again. I changed my definition of “responsible parent/adult” to include imagining and daydreaming (and getting more tattoos and listening to new bands and going to concerts again!).
I’ve honestly become a better version of me – even a better parent – for it. My kids are inspired by it – I’ll never forget my son’s look of amazement when he saw my book on the library bookshelf for the first time. He saw me in a whole new light then, just as I’ve started to see myself in that newer, brighter light too.
This indie author path is a bumpy and uncertain one, for sure, but two years and four books later, I am more than happy to be on it – even if at times I feel completely irresponsible and, not to mention very lost, along the way.
I’m figuring it out as I go.